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What me worry OR how not to worry

Worry is it worth it, or how to not worry

Turning worry in to concern is what you would like to do with all worries, heatlh, wealth, love and life.

Here are some thought I have gathered in understanding a Anxious part of my life, and how to get around it:


William Janes quote;
“When once a decision is reached and execution is the order of the day, dismiss absolutely all responsibility and care about the outcome”
from MAD magazine
An attitude we wish to
adopt.

To deal with worry:
- gather facts objectively as if you are an outsider
- use those facts when the thing you are worrying about actually happens.

Action List - create a plan to stop worry

From Gayland Richie: four questions to answer. You must write down and answer:
1. What am I worrying about?
2. What can I do about it? Write down scenarios or facts
3. What am I going to do about it or here's an action list
4. When am I going to start doing it?

So look at facts. Write down the questions to the answers above. Then put then action plan into place. And realise you need not be concerned with out come.

Business Worries - Are they opportunities

Here are some questions that Dale Carnegie documented after speaking to a few business people. These questions can turn your business worries to opportunities, or at least make you trying and solve them, or reduce your worries (Dale Carnegie says by 50%). They too require fact finding and problem solving
  1. What is the problem?
  2. What is the cause of the problem?
  3. What are all possible solutions?
  4. What solution do I think is best?
It is also worth considering the following when worrying:
  1. What is the worst that can happen
  2. What happens if I accept the worst
  3. Can I accept the worst case, and if so then look at the Gayland Richie solution or the Business Questions documented by Dale Carnegie
I now believe worry is something we need to get through to solve problems. If we can see worry as a way for us to checkout how, what, where, when, who and why.

Rudyard Kipling in his "Just So Stories" (1902), in which a poem accompanying the tale of "The Elephant's Child" opens with:
I keep six honest serving-men
(They taught me all I knew);
Their names are What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who.

Keep Busy - less time to worry

If you are still struggling with coping with worry then consider this. When they asked Winston Churchill in the middle of World War II was he not worried about the country, he replied he was too busy to worry.

When you find you are consumed with worry, keep yourself busy. Create a list of things to do, fix this tap, write this letter, bake cookies. Keep busy. If you are able to keep busy then you will find that worry is seldom in your thoughts. The longer the list of things to do and the longer you do the things. There are people who have keep themselves so busy to the point of exhaustion. After a point they find the worry habit is broken. This links back the action list idea

As as read more for other peoples ideas I may post more later, depending how the research goes.

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